I know spouses who get so upset about the little things that they start looking outward at others thinking, "Maybe I should just go with them, with that person…they wouldn't do this."
But let me tell you, that's a trick of the enemy. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes and get on each other's nerves, or they do something that we can't stand; but is it worth disrupting the peace by focusing on that? And drawing the negativity out?
You see, when we fight over little things, our energy is robbed and we slowly begin to allow a wedge to come between us. That's when dangerous comparisons can begin, and we start thinking that we need something else. It's like this giant snowball; it started out as something small, but escalated into something large, potentially breaking up the marriage.
I heard somebody say, "People will leave a marriage with somebody that has 80% of what they need because they find the other 20% in somebody else. But what they don't realize is no one has it all. And if you leave the 80% to find the 20% that your spouse doesn't have, you'll soon realize that other person is lacking in 20% of something else." You're still going to have something to deal with. Someone else is still going to have some small things to look over that get on your nerves. I say this lightly, but if you can just make this small change in your thinking, you won't be comparing anymore.
Think about it, is it really worth this much strife and division over the small things? Is it worth all the egg shells that each of you feel that you have to walk on and the strife brought into the home? Is it worth the snowball effect?
Let me ask you a question: Are you fighting battles with your spouse that can be overlooked?
Let's learn to celebrate what our spouse does right and focus on the good. Remember the reasons why you fell in love with that person! You'll be amazed at how much difference it will make in your marriage when you learn to let the little things go.